Why Are We Still Body Shaming in 2020?

Disclaimer: All opinions on this article are 100% my own and we are all subject to our own opinions.  The topic of body shaming may trigger some of you and if you have anything to add in the comments please feel free to do so.

Let’s Talk Halftime

One week ago millions of us sat down and watched the Super Bowl.  We all saw the same game, same interceptions, same flags, and the same epic win!  [Check out last weeks post for pregame thoughts]. However, I’m not sure we all saw the same halftime show.  The amount of comments and hate I have read over this past week about Shakira and JLo’s performances is appalling.  And it’s not because of lack of entertainment.  It’s based on their appearance and how they chose to present themselves.  Why are we still body shaming in 2020? 

On my personal FB page, I saw a post from a friend about how she had to explain to her daughters why they can’t wear similar outfits and they can’t dance the way they do.  Why?  Why are we telling small, impressionable women of the future that they can’t be who they want to be?  Why are we still putting negative connotations on a type of dancing?  Her explanation was, “Well, those women have millions of dollars to make them look like that and I don’t want my daughters on a stripper pole.”  Oh, okay! I didn’t realize I was at a gentleman’s club that night. No nip-slips or dollar bills were spotted from my seat. Again, we must’ve seen a different show.

It’s a shame to call someone a ‘diva’ simply because they work harder than everyone else.

Jennifer Lopez

I am not trying to discredit the money argument.  Yes, they are rich. I’m sure they have personal trainers, dietitians, the best of the best working for them.  But does that mean they didn’t put in the work?  Have you ever tried dancing the way those women did?  It’s physically demanding.  Let’s empower our future women instead of beat them down.  Then, maybe, one day they’ll have the self confidence and support system to not end up in the trenches. Maybe one day they will be dancing in the halftime show.

Vulnerability is not weakness.

Another thing that has me triggered this week is Jaclyn Hill’s latest YouTube video.  She opened up about how terrible 2019 was for her; how she turned to alcohol for comfort and the negative side affects it had on her physically.  I have followed, and honestly, looked up to this woman for years.  Without her videos, I would not be able to even pretend to know anything about makeup today.  Watching her be completely vulnerable and to see backlash for that is downright disgusting.   Yes, I have noticed a change in her appearance.  We are not robots.  We age; we change; we grow.  How dare anyone feel they are above that.

My personal journey.

Photo by: Greg James

This is me over ten years ago.  I weighed 95ish lbs and was accused of having eating disorders, being on drugs, being sick, etc. But that was me.  I was sober. I ate anything and everything [and kept it down].  But I remember my entire teenage years well into my 20s, I was constantly told there was something wrong with me when there wasn’t.  I praise God all the time, that I grew up a strong willed [stubborn] woman and was able to come out on top. In my early 20s I turned to modeling because I felt I needed to prove stereotypes wrong. We are all different shapes and sizes. We all have something to offer to the world.

Now I am here, two babies later, 25 lbs heavier, and just ask my husband, I love and am proud of the way I look! As a mother of two boys, I feel it is my duty to teach them not to objectify women, to treat women with kindness and respect so maybe in the future we don’t see posts like this being made. Let’s build each other up and stop tearing each other down. Let’s judge others based on their hearts and not their pant size. Let’s end body shaming in 2020!

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